So you’ve committed the eighth deadly sin and ghosted someone you were hitting it off with and now you want to slide into their DMs. It’s a bold move and it just might work if you go into it with a better plan than “you up?” Here is how you can get things going again with a cutie you left on read without things blowing up in your face.
- Think Back On Your Time Together. How sweaty you have to be with your re-approach really depends on how far you two made it into the relationship before you disappeared. If you exchanged a few messages via Tinder and dipped, that will require a lot less effort than if you two have hooked up already. Also, look at the last few messages they sent you. If they were hurt or roasted the hell out of you, it’s probably best to leave it at that.
- Figure Out Your Own Motivation. Before you text them again ask yourself why you really want to rekindle things. Do you really miss them or did they just get really, really hot? Also, think about what made you ghost them in the first place. Have these things really changed or are you just getting a little desperate? Be honest with yourself so you can avoid repeating the past. Ghosting is terrible but double-ghosting should be a crime.
- Address How You Ghosted (Or Don’t).There’s going to be an elephant in the room and it’s your choice whether to address it. You could come right out and say why you ghosted and try to apologize or you can muscle right on through and ask for a date. It’s tough to believe that your silence won’t be a topic of discussion at some point though so you better be ready to explain yourself either way.
Source:LifeHacker